How can I find out if my husband is alive or deceased
Hi. My expertise is limited only to Social Security benefits, so I can only tell you what information Social Security could release to you. Social Security receives notices of death from funeral directors and state death indexes. If you potentially qualify for benefits based on your husband's Social Security record, then Social Security could inform you what options you have with regard to applying for auxiliary (e.g. spousal) or survivor benefits. However, if you don't know your husband's Social Security number then you would need to be able to give Social Security enough background information (e.g. birth date, place of birth, etc.) for them to locate his records.
Best, Jerry