What if we were coming law married for 5 years before we were married 5years

Hi. I assume you're referring to meeting the 10 year marriage requirement for divorced spousal or survivor benefits. Any legally recognized marriage can count toward the 10 year requirement, including a valid common law marriage. So, assuming that the marriages were consecutive, a valid common law marriage could be combined with a traditional marriage to meet the 10 year requirement.

Best, Jerry